I was just making my way through my Google Reader when I came across this post (Friendship Truths) by Amy at Just a Titch. The paragraph she wrote about Three Strikes. She tries to make plans three times with new friends, and if they deny her three times, she’ll move on. I think that sounds like a great idea, but what do you do when it’s your old friends that are turning you down consistently?
I’ve been having this problem lately, with two friends in particular. We’ll make plans, and they’ll consistently flake on me. The worst is when they flake on me at the last minute, after I’ve already put all other plans aside and I’ve made the time for them. This just happened this past weekend, and I’m kind of getting tired of it. It’s harder because these girls are friends from high school, meaning we’ve known each other for nearly ten years. I’m kind of getting tired of this happening, and if I followed Amy’s three strike rule, that would mean it’s time for me to move on. Stephen insists that I speak up and say something to them, but I feel like doing so will start some sort of drama, and I’m just not that kind of person.
Not that my solution is any better, I’ve just stopped trying to make plans with them. If they make plans and invite me along, I’ll come, but I won’t go out of my way to make plans with them anymore. The disappointment that comes from them cancelling every single time is too much. To be honest, I feel like this is a high school type of problem, and I figured that at the age of 26, I wouldn’t be dealing with silly things like this anymore.
Now, to get to the point of me writing this post; I’d like to ask for your advice. If you were in this situation, what would you do? Would you speak up and risk upsetting your friends? (One of them in particular is overly sensitive.)